My sister Lori.

6 May

Lori

This is Lisa’s story of the sudden and tragic death of her sister Lori in 1981. Lori was 25 years old and Lisa was 13. It took almost 3 decades for Lisa to find out the truth about her sister’s death. Here is Lisa’s story:

My sister Lori Died Suddenly on Sept. 22, 1981. She was 25 years old. I always knew my Sister’s sudden death was suspicious. I had searched for years for the answers to why, which included contacting the police department, and going over the report many times! Someone had to do this to her, she would not have killed herself! This I knew for sure! I would sit in my driveway where she lost her life, and look at my house many times over, and say how did you sit here, looking at our families home with your daughter, niece, sisters, and parents sleeping inside, how how could you have done this to us, and yourself?!

Nothing made sense then, and for the decades that followed. However, now almost three decades later “2009″ the truth has finally surfaced. I now have the answer I have searched for my entire life since that tragic morning I found her in her 1977 Buick with our father’s handgun in her lap. I promised her that morning I would not give up until I found the “truth” about what really happened to her. My sister loved life, and her family, and knew we loved her! She would not have taken her own life. So why did she?
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Summary of Lori’s Story:
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My sister moved home, and filed for divorce in 1980. I am her younger sister Lisa, and we spent most of this time together when she moved back home. I was going into the 8th grade that year. I was so happy that she was moving in with us, and that I would have time to spend with her. We were very close, very similar. Lori was a strong, smart woman, and she was determined to make it on her own! She worked for the county that we lived in, and was very well liked at her job. She also made enough money where she would be able to live. People that she worked with were shocked like everyone else was to hear about her sudden, so out of character death.
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At the time she lived with us she was doing fine, going to work everyday, and taking one day at a time to rebuild her life. Throughout her divorce it was stressful, just as much as expected in any divorce situation. It is a life change. Suddenly the last month to weeks of her life I noticed that she had changed. I listened, and I watched her suddenly turn into someone I did not know. I could not figure it out? Why was she acting like this? Saying these things to me? Finding it funny to scare me? Lori suddenly started to talk about death, and dying! In which she would include me in her plans/ideas on how I/We could end her life!
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Some examples are as follows:
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1. Lori would loop a belt around her neck, and ask me to pull it as hard as I could until she stopped breathing!
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2. Lori would ask me to come in the middle of the night, and put a pillow over her face to suffocate her in her sleep!
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3. Lori would lay still in her bed, and when she heard me coming down the hallway she would lay still, and pretend to be dead. When I shook her to wake her up she would not move. She stayed so still until she couldn’t anymore, and started to laugh out loud hysterically at me, and then would say to me “I’m just joking Lisa, I just wanted to see what it would feel like to really be dead, and what you would do if I really was?! Then she would go on to say to me, “you don’t have to worry I wouldn’t really do anything, I’m too chicken!”
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4. Lori suddenly changed by saying things to me like “HE” is in your room, closet and going to get you! Will you sleep with me in my room on the floor next to me? She also would say things that did not make sense like.. see this pin this will pop your face, see this curling iron, this will burn your face! It Never made sense the things she started to say..that was not her!
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5. Lori suddenly at times would go from laughing, and joking about something into anger, (suddenly she pushed me into a file cabinet, it, and myself fell on the ground) Lori never would hurt anyone, especially me;  agitated, and confused mood. (suddenly she would look at me with sadness in her eyes, and say to me I don’t know why I am saying or doing these things.. I must be going crazy.
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Lisa and Lori6. Something else happened shortly before her life ended in such a tragic horrific way. Lori suddenly became very sick she came down with the flu. She lost weight, she could not eat, drink, or get up out of bed she was very pale, and weak, frail looking. I felt so bad I could not help her feel better. I had never seen her so sick before. She could not hold food down and was growing weaker by the day.
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7. Lori also suddenly started to fall asleep with her bible on her face. As if she were reading. praying for help to feel better. I had to take the bible of her face a few times when she finally was able to sit still, and take a short nap.
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8. Lori’s sleeping patterns suddenly changed as well.
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9. The night before she died, I remember it so clear. Lori kept rocking in our rocking chair that we had in our living room. She would not stop! She also was talking much faster than usual, and walking much faster as well. When I finally asked her to stop rocking so fast she just looked at me like she couldn’t stop, or didn’t want to. It was like someone was pushing her to rock. I thought it very odd at the time but soon overlooked it because of all her sudden behaviors had been so altered lately that I almost was getting use to the changes.
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10. That night my sister’s were staying up to watch the Deer Hunter a movie that came out in the 80′s I believe. They wanted me to stay up also to watch it with them but I was tired, and only made through some of it. The Russian Roulette camp scene came up. Where each of the prisoners were made to put a loaded handgun to their heads, some chambers were full, some were not. Each prisoner was made to take a chance when it was their turn. If it was empty they lived. If it was not they died. Lori made the comment/question: Do you think if I did that it would work the first time? Then she laughed it off. Then she started talking about our German Shepherd Dog who was aging. Lori said what are we going to do with Champ when he dies? Then she said well it doesn’t matter, if we bury him the worms will eat him anyway! Again she laughed.
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Lori 2I went to bed soon after that part of the movie, I was very tired. Lori came into my bedroom late that night, and stood in my doorway. She was talking to me, and asked are you awake? I remember mumbling back to her yes, but was half asleep still. She looked at the last supper picture I had on the wall, and asked me who was so and so? I don’t remember the name she said. Then she went on to look at her daughters picture on my wall, and said aww, isn’t she so cute! Then the last thing she said to me was “Well I’ll see you in the morning ok?!” and off she went down the hallway, I heard the front door slam as it usually did behind her around that time of night. That night Lori was not sad, depressed, crying, or irritable, just sounded so full of life! Energized.
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I did not know it then, but that was the last time I would hear her voice. That early morning of September 22, 1981 I was getting ready for school. I went into her bedroom to borrow a shirt of hers, and I quietly asked her if I could borrow it? Lori did not answer, so I took it, and got ready to catch the bus. As I walked out the front door down our driveway I had to pass her car, from a far distance all I could see was the color RED. My first thought was “here she goes again, She is trying to fool me again, and this time it looks like she used Ketchup!
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Well as I got closer, I saw my sister through the car window, she was on her side with her head on the armrest of the passenger side door. I could see her face clearly, Her eyes were closed, and there was blood dripping from her mouth, and bottom lip onto the seat. Still I was in total disbelief. Our other sister ran back into the house right away, and was calling me to come with her. I stayed by the car window, pounding on the glass waiting for her move, or waiting for her to laugh because she fooled me again! She did not move, or laugh.
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Our father came out of the house, and broke the driver side window, unlocked the door and got inside the car, reached across Lori’s body to unlock the passenger side door, ran around the car as fast as he could, got in and picked her up to hold her. Lori’s body lay across my fathers lap, and he just kept repeating WHY?
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Lori3Our father came up to the house finally, hands and clothing full of blood, and said to me, your sister is gone. She had a open casket, I was not going to attend until a friend told me I should go say goodbye or I would regret it later. So I went. I finally went up to the casket where her body lay. All I could remember was the things she had said to me, and done those last weeks of her life. I was afraid, and confused to what had happened to her. It just never made sense! As I sat and looked across the room at her in the casket all I could think of was that this was not real. She was not Dead. She is pretending, etc. Even though In reality I did know she was gone. Just didn’t know why?!
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*Lori did not drink,smoke, or do drugs- We had no answers. No clues so we thought. So for decades her sudden change, which followed to her sudden death remained “suspicious!”
THE NOTE SHE LEFT BEHIND SAID:
“IT’S NOBODY’S FAULT, I JUST FLIPPED!”
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(WITH A SMILEY FACE AT THE BOTTOM.)
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Decades later the truth surfaced! Finally I was able to put it all together. In 2009 I was going through my sister’s box of things that I had packed away almost 28 years ago, off the top of her dresser. I came across many things I remembered from the time… one which included a medicine bottle. We knew Lori was put on a medicine to help her with the stress of her divorce, so it was not a surprise to me that I packed the bottle. Like I said we all knew she was taking something for anxiety. Back then it was similar to taking an advil. No big deal. As long as a doctor gave you something, it was ok to take. Safe.
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However..the shock came to me when I typed the name of the drug into the computer just months ago. Slowly it all started to come together, and I mean all of it! As I read the side effects of the medication she was on, it all suddenly linked! Including the things she said, the things she did, the rocking in the chair, the things she was seeing that were not there, and finally to the flu like symptoms that she was displaying shortly before she ended her life at the young age of 25.
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Lori 3NOW..EVEN THE NOTE SHE LEFT BEHIND MAKES SENSE!….SHE DID FLIP, LOST HER MIND, HOWEVER, SHE DID NOT KNOW IT WAS DUE TO THE CONCEALED SIDE EFFECTS OF A PRESCRIPTION DRUG SHE TOOK FOR JUST A FEW SHORT WEEKS!!
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HERE IS THE WARNING ON THIS SAME DRUG TODAY (2013):
Imipramine and Suicides:
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Your healthcare provider should monitor you (or your child) carefully when you are first starting an antidepressant. You should also be watchful for any signs of suicidal behavior. Contact your healthcare provider right away if you (or your child) have any of the following:
*Thoughts about death or *committing suicide, Suicide attempts, *Depression or anxiety that is new or worse, *Agitation, restlessness, or panic attacks
*Trouble sleeping (insomnia), *Irritability that is new or worse, *Aggressive, angry, or violent behavior, *Acting on dangerous impulses, *Unusually increased talking or activity*Akathisia
An analysis of a large clinical trial published in the British Journal of Psychiatry in 2008 estimated that up to 35 percent of people taking antipsychotic drugs experience akathisia.
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Symptoms include: Fidgety movements*, Leg swinging while sitting*, Rocking from foot to foot or pacing*, Motor restlessness; inability to sit still*, Feelings of anxiety*, Insomnia*. The combination of these symptoms and depression and impulsiveness may also contribute to aggression and suicide in some patients. Other strange changes in mood or behavior. (* I put a star next to every side effect she had!)
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BLACK BOX WARNING (2004)
http://www.accessdata.fda.gov/psn/transcript.cfm?show=34 Today we have commercials warning of these dangers. We also have computers where we can do our own research. Back then, we had nothing! Some say maybe no-one knew back then… Not true! Facts below:
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Pharmacosis:
* The first descriptions of a drug causing suicide came in 1955. A few years later in 1958 and again in 1959 the problem was described with imipramine.* Treatment induced suicide became a prominent media issue in 1990 with a paper by Teicher and Cole. (MY SISTER DID NOT HAVE TO DIE!) *It was not until 2004 that regulators and companies conceded that these drugs can cause a problem.
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Closure.
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In 2009 I was able to give our parents some kind of closure to Lori’s death, however, this in no way made up for the three plus decades of pain and suffering they as parents had to endure. Our Mother said: You mean she died because people had to be greedy, and make money? Our Father said: It don’t matter now, because she is gone, and nobody will care! HAD WE KNOWN THE CONCEALED SIDE EFFECTS OF IMIPRAMINE, MY SISTER WOULD BE ALIVE TODAY!
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WELL MY STORY IS NOW ONLINE, AND PEOPLE DO CARE, AND HOPEFULLY LIVES CAN BE SAVED BY READING HER STORY! IN LOVING MEMORY OF MY SISTER… SHE MAY NOW, AFTER ALMOST THREE DECADES, REST IN PEACE.
I LOVE YOU.
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To contact Lisa directly - plastercaster68@yahoo.com
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17 Responses to “My sister Lori.”

  1. Lisa May 6, 2013 at 3:57 pm #

    Thank you so much for adding Lori’s story!

    I wrote this story In Loving Memory of my Sister Lori, and all others who lost their lives in this similar suspicious way.
    Maybe other families left behind will also connect this missing link, within their own tragic loss of their loved one.

    I hope by telling Lori’s story it will bring closure to other families who suddenly lost a loved one even if it was decades ago!

    At least maybe when, or should I say if the anger of understanding the truth of what really happened some kind of peace will, or can try to be found. This happened in 1981.
    The truth surfaced for me in 2009!

    These types of suicides were swept under the rug, and people were mislabeled, not only the victims, but the families were also left behind to live with the stigma of the mere word suicide! This also was/is wrong!

    *Rx Induced “Completed Suicides” due to the concealed side effects of a prescription drug, not only was/is wrong, but should be criminal!

    Accountability for the lives lost… how bout a few words to families ..we are sorry!?

    Unsuspecting, Trusting, Vulnerable people who were going through some of life’s trials, as we all do. It is called life….. *Temporary Situations, seeking help for Normal feelings of loss, death, divorce etc…cost people their lives.

    THE RIGHT TO BE INFORMED WAS NOT GIVEN TO MY SISTER!
    THE DEADLY SIDE EFFECTS WERE KNOWN, BUT YET CONCEALED!

    what would you do…. now?

    *No amount of money could ever take away the decades of pain, and suffering my family, and I have endured.

    Oh yea one last thing. I was told by a lawyer in 2009, I had all the proof in hand, they said even if you are correct, and it looks like you are. it happened so long ago! There is nothing we can do.

    • positievenood May 30, 2013 at 9:39 pm #

      I am so sorry for the loss of your sister. I also went through the same things like your sister did when i was on prozac. Prescribed by my doctor for hormonal problems. I went from a sensitive loving person to having insomnia, agression problems and akathisia. It was tormenting. I’m still alive to talk about it. I started a foundation together with my partner and a friend to warn people for these side effects. We live in the Netherland and every year more and more vulnerable people get put on these very dangerous medications. I’ll take
      this story in my heart and work harder to make people aware of the dangers o f these kind of medication. Thank you..

      • Lisa May 30, 2013 at 10:46 pm #

        Thank you… not only did Lori lose her life, my families lives were destroyed as well. Sadness, Anger, etc. the feelings were endless of despair. Years of hurting, never knowing why. 2009 It all came together. Still I can’t bring her back, but I can let her live on through her story. :( maybe someones life can be saved.

  2. Glenna Todovich (Aaron's Mom) May 6, 2013 at 4:51 pm #

    My son died much the same way and we were told the same thing by lawyers. I am so very sorry for your loss, for all of our losses. Totally unnecessary. God Bless.

    • Lisa May 7, 2013 at 4:51 am #

      I am sorry for your loss.. do you want to share your story?

    • Lisa Gina September 23, 2013 at 9:06 pm #

      It is so wrong… justice will never be served. All we can do now is tell our stories. keep their memory alive,,, for who they were not how they were mislabeled suicides!

  3. Tim casey June 28, 2013 at 4:20 am #

    My friends and I helped force the FDA to put warnings on the drugs after the “Great Revelation” at an FDA hearing on Feb 2, 2004. You used to be able to sue the drug companies within a 2 year time limit, but after the warnings came out you cannot sue the drug company… because the FDA “approved” the drug. But at least you can now sue the doctor that prescribed it.

    • Lisa June 28, 2013 at 1:49 pm #

      yea well..the people who “treated” my sister are long gone by now.. passed away I am sure. This all happened over three decades ago. So there is no one to sue, or bring anyone to justice for her death. To me.. she is finally at peace because the truth has been found. Side effects that induce someone to do something is not the same as doing it on
      ones free will.. Thank you for your comment.

    • Lisa Gina September 23, 2013 at 9:10 pm #

      Back in the 80′s time frame things were not like today. today we have computers which can take us to any topic one wants to learn about. If it were not for the computer in 2009, and my account of what happened to her, and still having the original med bottle…etc. I will never forget it. It still feels like yesterday. The memory of her mental state suddenly diminishing is forever imprinted in my mind, heart and soul. If you would like to be added to my in memory of group on fb. feel free to friend me!
      Peace to you.

  4. Lisa July 4, 2013 at 2:48 am #

    Could you please post this at the bottom of Lori’s Story… It is vital info. Thank you… Lisa

    http://www.ehow.com/about_5370062_tca-side-effects.html

    I HOPE PEOPLE READ IT AFTER THEY READ HER STORY…. SADLY IT ALL LINKS. :(

  5. Jennifer Lindsay September 22, 2013 at 7:54 pm #

    Im so sorry for the loss of your sister. I lost my 18 year old brother in October 2002 and he showed alot of side effects like your sister but my brother was on seroxat. Makes my blood boil that our loved ones died for other peoples greed x

    • Lisa Gina September 23, 2013 at 9:05 pm #

      Thank you for sharing your loss with me. You are right.. the side effects of these drugs were, and still are deadly. If you would like to be a member of my sister’s group on facebook you can friend request me. I have come across others just like us..and there are many …countless numbers of families that I have yet to meet up with, however I am sure.I will meet many more. I hope to add them to my sister’s group in memory of all who lost their lives, were mislabeled suicides, then swept under the rug. These deaths should be labeled one of two things.. either murder by poisoning, or accidentally due to induced side effects of a prescription drug!

    • Lisa Gina September 25, 2013 at 2:06 am #

      please friend me and join my group in memory of Lori and all who were lost in this way! It is a private group. I hope to see your request so I can include you. it also is full of information and videos that confirm yes…. in a way..they were poisoned.

  6. Lisa Gina September 23, 2013 at 9:18 pm #

    If anyone wants to share their story with me, and or would like to be a part of my sister’s group just friend me on fb. Her group is private so only member can view it, and I have so specially add you for you to see it!
    is full of facts, and information. In this group you will meet other families just like mine/yours who have been through hell due to these induced side effects of not just A prescription drug, but many different name labels- people that were/are Mentally altered today because of them!
    I hope this group will grow, and we can help each other cope with our losses that ALL could have been prevented! murder.is NOT the same as suicide. There is a HUGE difference.

    • Colleen September 24, 2013 at 4:06 am #

      Thank you for sharing your sister’s story. My mother committed suicide in 1992 and we believe it was largely due to a new drug she was on – Prozac. Like your sister, she was a happy, outgoing person who was going through a divorce, so her doctor prescribed this horrible drug and didn’t monitor my mother like she should have. I found out later that my mother had attempted suicide twice before. Why no one did anything with that information, I’ll never know.

      • Lisa Gina September 25, 2013 at 2:01 am #

        Do you realize that they knew of the dangers and did not let people ..the public know about them. In away…they were poisoned if you think about it. I have a group if you want to join it. it is a private group for people..survivors just like us who lost in this way. I have a information page with others stories, and if you listen to some of the video’s I have found of the fda hearings in 1991..your mother may of still been here! I want to share it with you if you let me. Friend me at Lisa Gina the above picture is me. We deserve the truth about our loved ones lost… and sure enough I/ we have found it.

  7. Gertrud Reich Albano September 26, 2013 at 2:14 am #

    When my husband got sick the doctor put me on Prozac for stress. I got really sick on it. Big time anxiety attacks. My blood pressure went up. Highs and lows. I called the doctor. He took me right off of it and told me not to be alone for a few days. This was back in 2000.

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